lmao Dennis R Upkins
Professional author Dennis R. Upkins is a giant woman-hating douche
A LJ and Wordpress user originally posted this to her blogs. This is her post, not mine.
Neo_prodigy / Dennis R. Upkins is big in SJ circles on and off Livejournal. Part of this derives from making excellent points about race. He also considers himself an expert on gender and sexuality, however, despite his long history of misogyny (which heavily affects his views on sexuality, not just gender). A large part of his following is also based on the misconception that Neo is some sort of ally to women, and unfortunately, people continue to thank him for speaking up for us, even as he disparages our gender and makes an ass of himself. Additionally, he’s the author of Hollowstone he’s previously promoted his book by claiming that it deals respectfully with issues of sexism and sexuality. He may scoff at the idea that he’s profiting from his position as a “trusted” expert on gender and sexuality, but he is trying to sell a book by representing it as something feminist-minded women would enjoy. Trust me, it’s not.
I’ve compiled a lot of links with the hopes that people will be persuaded to look at his views on gender and sexuality with contempt. He hasn’t made benign mistakes here and there—he was sexist, and he continues to be sexist. By and large, his ideas concerning sexuality and representations of queer men adhere to conventional ideas about masculinity and elide the fact that women are queer, too. And in order to avoid criticisms, he misrepresents his detractors as straight white women, whether they’re queer men of color (like himself), queer women of color, straight women of color, or white queer women.
These are posts unrelated to How to Slash Better which comment on and/or serve as evidence that he’s always been a misogynistic asshole. Some of this is old, and it’s arranged mostly in chronological order.
Neo_Prodigy likely pretended to be a queer woman in order to “get away” with slinging around misogynistic insults, after he had already used sexist slurs under his own name: here
More on Neo_Prodigy’s sexism: here.
Neo hates on misandronists and makes his infamous piano wire comment in the process: here.
Neo’s thoughts on Twilight, misandrony and the oh-so unfortunate emasculation of teens/young men during the period where they’re most alpha-male: here.
Neo describes in loving detail what he’d do if he was straight and married, in order to prevent himself from having kids. There’s a large dose of hypothetical reproductive violence and reproductive control in the post, as well as slut shaming: here.
Neo_Prodigy thinks Bill Maher, a sexist, transphobic and xenophobic douchebag, is awesome: here.
Neo_Prodigy, for some unknown reason, thinks he deserves a voice in The War On Women discussion. He also wants you to back pat him for being, at one point, a progressive pro-lifer. Oh, and he’s decided to weigh in on the issue because he got a sign from the goddess. I’m serious: here.
Apparently, the worst thing a woman can be called fat, while the worst thing a man can be called is gay. I guess Neo and his woman friend do not understand that WOMEN GET CALLED LESBIANS AND DYKES AS AN INSULT ALL THE FUCKING TIME: here.
How to Slash Better. The post includes brilliant observations and insights into Neo’s mind: men are promiscuous because they’re men; men and women are sexually different; if he were into women, Neo wouldn’t perform certain sex acts with them even if they asked because he is just that chivalrous; gay men love icons of masculinity like policemen, firefighters, doctors, soldiers, etc.; neo is a total alpha male; “misandrony” is a real thing to be wary of; gay men dominate and want to be dominated; Neo’s language, whether he intends it to or not, suggests that straight trans men are either queer or not real men (“Like cis straight men, queer men come in all ranges and believe it or not many of us are masculine” – there are more examples of him qualifying “straight men” in this manner); males are men but women are “females”; straight men understand queer men better than any woman does; neo is psychic (“Male pseudonyms or not, I can usually tell within a few pages whether a piece was penned by a man or a woman.”)
1st sf_d response: here.
neo and his friend are real mad that the post is being dismissed as mansplaing: here.
2nd sf_d response: here.
n_p responds to a white queer woman: here.
why n_p think white women are uniquely homophobic: here.
n_p blocks a woc: here.
n_p’s response: here.
yours truly, along with seluecus (a queer man of color), posts to inclusive_geeks using neo_prodigy as an example of people not thinking critically about social justice idols: here.
n_p really doesn’t understand why people are mad at him, part 989357. and as usual, everything is forever and always about him: here.
I’ve only gone through two or three chapters so far for my write-up of Dennis R. Upkins’ Hollowstone, but there are already numerous examples of sexism. Some of them are small examples, I know, but they demonstrate that neo/Upkins doesn’t have a good grasp of women. There are more severe examples of Neo’s sexism, like the 3 passages that include male characters slut shaming women.
Hearing voices and laughter from the kitchen, I figured Mrs. Jenkins was over for one of her weekly neighborhood gossip chats. Instead, I found Ms. Ramirez [his English teacher] giggling with Nanna.
“As I was telling your grandmother, I had some concerns,” Ms. Ramirez said. “If it’s about that test, it’s only an A- and I don’t like Shakespeare,” I argued. My teacher giggled, “It’s not that at all Noah…”
As much as I want to laugh at the poor—and obnoxious—attempt to characterize Noah as a perfectionist, that’s beyond the purview of Upkins’ sexism and misogyny. Anyway, why I want to look at these passages is because Upkins decides to describe a teacher as “giggling.” I know it’s a small thing, but it’s typical for women characters to be described as “giggling” instead of laughing in a lot of texts, particularly when written by men. At any rate, these passages are in close proximity, so he should’ve at least changed the word choice.
Nanna wasted no time telling Mrs. Jenkins and in turn half of Atlanta knew that I would be going to Hollowstone.
Because women, especially older ones, are gossips. Very original, Mr. Upkins.
I was escorted to my dorm room by a hyper redhead student volunteer named Cherry.
Really, dude? A redhead named Cherry?
Cherry says: “This is such an awesome school. You’re going to love it here. I’ve been here for like three years and each year just gets better and better. Not that my first year here was bad, it was very cool but you know getting adjusted from L.A. was a bit of a change but it’s very nice up here and very rustic. Of course my friends are totally the best. I met them my first year here and we had a blast. We’ve been tight ever since and I know this year is going to be the best ever.”
That’s not how teen girls talk. That’s how 30 year old men think teen girls talk, though.
A sexy white guy with no name as of yet, responding to racism directed at Noah: “Cindy Robbins and Toni Marrett. Two of the most stuck up skanks at this school. I would know. I did them both in a hot tub last month.”
Nibbling on an hors d’ouvre, she possessed flawless light brown skin. Catching her eye, I smiled and nodded at her. Before I could move, she rolled her eyes, turned up her nose and started away. “And so much for that plan,” I grumbled to myself.
Noah is totally entitled to the woman’s time!
Across the room, Cherry chatted with her friends at 5000 words a minute. I was just relieved that someone else had to deal with her ramblings.
Men never disparage women by commenting about how they talk too much.
“They haven’t kicked you out of school, yet?” Phyllis asked. Caleb responds: “No they’ve been too busy dealing with that gonorrhea outbreak of yours.”
Tossing her strawberry blond locks, she strode to my table and sat in the seat next to me. The two of us inches apart, Abigail’s sweet intoxicating scent made concentrating problematic.
The eccentric and mean music teacher says, after Cindy Robbins plays her instrument: Ms. Robbins, for the sake of your music and your love life, I do hope that you learn how to blow properly.
*Incidentally, there are several really inappropriate Holocaust and Nazi Germany references, with Caleb referring to a teacher as “fuehrer” and Noah remarking, when asked to play the violin, that his classmates looked at him “like a man walking to the gas chamber.” If anyone wants me to add anything, comment here.